September 02, 2025

Knowledge is Power

What makes intelligence so...Stimulating?

Intelligence is attractive, we can all agree on that. For many of us, it’s more than that though - it’s a huge turn on. 

Sapiosexuality is the experience of being strongly attracted to intelligence in others, often finding it more compelling than physical connection or other traditional markers of intimate relationships.

It doesn’t mean physical attraction disappears - far from it. It just means intellectual stimulation is the primary spark. Deep conversation, clever wit, unique insights or enthusiastic knowledge sharing - Sapiosexuality is less about an IQ score, and more about curiosity, creativity, and how a mind works.

We thought we would scratch the surface of this treasure trove of pleasure, and share a few suggestions for an intriguing education…

THE SCIENCE OF SMART

Let’s dip our toes into the technical, chemical and scientific benefits of expanding your intellectual horizon…

NEUROPLASTICITY & BRAIN HEALTH

  • Intellectual stimulation strengthens neural connections and fosters neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to reorganize and form new pathways.

  • Engaging in problem-solving, learning new skills, or critical thinking challenges the brain, improving cognitive reserve — a buffer against age-related decline and neurodegenerative diseases, such as Alzheimer’s.

DOPAMINE & MOTIVATION

  • Encountering new ideas or solving problems triggers the dopamine reward system. This neurotransmitter boosts motivation, curiosity, and the drive to continue seeking knowledge.

  • Novelty and challenge are key - routine tasks don’t release the same neurochemical “spark”. Try switching where you put your toothbrush every day - a simple exercise that works wonders for your mind. And then you could always start thinking about new ways to add a little extra spark to your bathroom routine whilst you’re there… 

STRESS REDUCTION THROUGH THE ‘FLOW STATE’

  • When deeply engaged in an intellectually challenging activity, people can enter ‘flow states’, where concentration is effortless and time seems to disappear.

  • The ‘flow state’ reduces cortisol (that charming stress hormone) and enhances overall well-being.

SOCIAL COGNITION & MIRROR NEURONS

  • Being stimulated by others - be it through debate, conversation, or collaborative problem-solving - activates mirror neurons, which help us understand and internalise others’ perspectives. The perks of empathy know no bounds.

THE PLEASURE IN THE PRACTICE

Intelligence attracts because it promises growth, safety, depth, and novelty. It turns us on not just sexually but holistically—mind, heart, and body.

Wit in Conversation: Quick, clever responses spark laughter and adrenaline, which overlap with arousal pathways.

Passion for Ideas: Seeing someone light up about what they know or love can be intoxicating—the passion itself is attractive.

Intellectual Foreplay: Deep conversations can feel like a mental dance, building anticipation and connection before physical intimacy.

GETTING INTO THE MINDSET

For many of us, it is so attractive to see the people we care about animated about their interests. The same is undeniably true of ourselves - Sharing the things that mentally excite you has a ripple effect. There is a strength in the openness that comes from the willingness to try and discover something new - the fun that comes from learning together creates an intimacy between you and a partner. That’s quite the turn on. Speaking of which…

TAKE NOTE 

With a 'back to school' mindset in the air, why not join one of our intimate Salons - a space to learn, explore and inspire, and an education unlike anything else. From bondage to striptease, impact play and kinks, why not broaden your horizons a little further over the next few months?

REVEAL YOUR MAJESTY: RECONNECT WITH YOUR FEMALE SENSUALITY THROUGH THE ART OF STRIPTEASE

7pm, 10th September

 ENTWINED: THE ART OF ROPE BONDAGE

7pm, 16th September

 THE ART OF PLAY: A BEGINNER’S GUIDE TO KINK AND PLEASURE

7pm, 22nd October

 LOVE ME TENDER: THE ART OF IMPACT PLAY AND SPANKING SKILLS

7pm, 12th November


For those curious to take things a little further,  explore our Private Salons - an exclusive experience that will reap all sorts of benefits and delights. These can be booked by emailing us at salons@coco-de-mer.com.

For those keen on a reading list or two, allow us to share a few recommendations from The Reading Room - ‘Sensory Evocations’  is the first of our Reading Lists, with some enlightening classics in the mix.

For a more recent list with a slightly more refined genre, try ‘An Emporium of Erotica’. The Reading Room is at your disposal for stirring your curiosities, so do take a look.

 

SET THE SCENE ACCORDINGLY

Allow us to assist…

 

Here’s to a new season, when the weather begins to turn and a world of delights awaits us behind a number of doors… Especially at The Home of Pleasure.